Bumble is Feminism Meets Swiping & is Changing Online Dating
I am an official San Diego City Rep for Bumble, but all views and words in this piece are my own! 😍🐝✨
It’s the 21st century and everything is different, even back from when I was a kid. I remember being privileged enough to have a huge desktop computer at home, and my parents warning me of the dangers of the Internet. The same rules applied online as they did offline. “Don’t talk to strangers”, “Be respectful”, “Know that you are a reflection of your family”. My parents, though they tried, could not contain my love for social media. I made my first Xanga profile when I was in third grade. I had a popular “screenshots” page on my Neopets account. I used to manage a Jonas Brothers MySpace Fan Page with 5000+ friends (and wrote fan fiction. Hi I’m Tina Belcher). I loved being able to connect with people all over the world with common interests quickly and easily.
I made the mistake of going to college in a relationship, so dating was pretty much off the table for me when I moved to San Diego. It was kind of a blessing and a curse. I didn’t really have the desire to date (I lived in a freaking dorm room with a girl sleeping 4 feet away from me every night) during my freshman year and I honestly didn’t know how. I was dating a Marine and we had been together for almost a year at that point. After we broke up and I tried to get into the dating scene, it actually turned out to be a lot harder than I thought.
I took a shot at dating some guys within my major (huge mistake), dating guys from outside of school (another huge mistake), and even tried out a few apps. I found myself really overwhelmed and uncomfortable with the fact that I had like 60 guys at a time trying to give me their best pickup line. Most of the time they were either disrespectful, cheesy, or not interesting (sound familiar?).
The thought of online dating used to scare the hell out of people. Little personal story; I met my Marine boyfriend through Tumblr back in 2011. Even 7 years ago I felt weird about telling people I had met him online. Now, most of the people I know met their partners or significant others online. Now, more than 40% of Americans are using dating apps and websites. The Internet can indeed be a scary place. With shows like Catfish and digital pyramid schemes taking over social media, it’s natural to be a little wary of the profiles you see. Of the 40% of Americans that use dating apps, 53% said that they lie on their profiles either by using a flattering photo from their past, or lying about their job to appear more successful.
Luckily, now it’s 2018 and Bumble has absolutely changed the dating app game. How? Well you need to keep reading to find out!
Bumble’s mission statement, in short, is “Make the First Move”. It’s great because it encourages women to do literally that. For Bumble (dating mode), when you’re swiping on guys, if you match, YOU (the woman) have to message him in order for the conversation to begin. How cool is that? No creepy or misogynistic pickup lines to try and avoid or be triggered by. Also, you have complete control over the conversation so if you change your mind or don’t feel like replying right away you don’t have to! I used to get harassing messages when I didn’t “message back quickly enough” or ignored someone. Like, who has the time to go back to shame a person for literally just being busy? Lonely guys.
The long version of their mission is “Bumble is a social network that allows you to feel empowered while you make connections, whether you’re dating, looking for friends, or growing your professional network.” A dating app that’s first priority in making women feel safe and empowered is really hard to come by these days. I love being able to support a company and app that aligns with my views. For same-sex couples, the “match-er” has 24 hours to message the “match-ee”. For instance, if I swiped right on you before you swiped right on me, you would have to message me first after you swiped right on me. It still puts the power and final decision in moving the conversation forward to the person who actively just decided to swipe right on someone.
With 67,000 new users everyday and 17 million matches per week. Your odds at finding love are pretty good 😍
BumbleBFF and BumbleBizz
If you’re like me and are in a happy relationship, then online dating and swiping is probably not your thing. However, Bumble isn’t just for finding a date! With their new BumbleBFF and BumbleBizz setting, you can swipe locals in your area looking for a workout buddy, a graphic designer, or just someone to show them around the area! I’ve used BumbleBFF regularly and am obsessed with it. I’ve been having some really fun and hilarious conversations with local girls who either just moved here, are married and work full time and don’t have time to “make friends”, or is just looking for rad girls to grab coffee and take Instagram photos with! Let’s be honest, that’s kind of important in a friend these days 😂
Finally, BumbleBizz is the future of networking. It’s LinkedIn for people who hate social media. Your profile is short, you can add as little as one and up to six headshots or images that display your work. From a freelance perspective, you can find a startup looking for a copywriter or different position, or alternatively, from a business owner perspective, you can find a contractor or freelancer that’s looking to help and grow with a new company. I’ve used both versions and I have so much fun looking at all the local entrepreneurs in the area in one place!
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Whether you just moved to a new city and are having a hard time making friends with a busy schedule, or are just looking for some new fun women to spice up your girls night, you need to check out BumbleBFF! Or, if you’re looking for love, you need to try Bumble! 20% of committed relationships since 2018 have started online. It’s the future. It’s so hard to meet people in bars and randomly on the street. Unfortunately life isn’t a fairytale like we were taught growing up. Luckily, Bumble is empowering and allowing women to take charge in the dating sector—a positive change from the historical patriarchal traditions of dating.